Relishing Life

Focusing on the Blessings in My Life

My Helpful Little One January 28, 2009

Filed under: raising children — Relishing Life @ 3:16 am

Ahh… the blessings of an intelligent child! How is it that we so excited that our child is bright, yet when they do something that is “helpful” they are being naughty and we find ourselves exasperated?!?! Sunday was one of those days! Actually, it was mostly amusing, but at the same time I had this sinking “we are in deep shit!” feeling about J, our 4-1/2 year old son.

J was able to accomplish 3 “helpful” tasks within an hour! Quite the resourceful little chap. The morning started off like any other morning. DH ran an errand for me while the boys and I stayed home. While we were upstairs, I was in our bedroom talking to DH on the phone (he had called to verify what it was that he was suppose to be purchasing for us) when I heard banging coming from the boys’ room. As I was occupied on the phone and it sounded like a plastic toy being banged on something, I wasn’t too concerned. So, upon completely my conversation with DH, I went to see what the noise had been. Well, my considerate son, J, had decided to move a plaque that was hanging over his bed to over his bother’s bed so that when K wakes up in the morning he could see it. At least that is what he told me upon questioning him as to his intentions. It was a very nice thought as the plaque is K’s and I simply hadn’t gotten around to moving it when we had them switch beds. However…. this entailed J taking the ceramic plaque off the wall, taking the nail out of the hole, going over to K’s bed and using his plastic toy hammer (thus the plastic banging) to hammer the nail into the wall where J thought it should go and then hanging the ceramic plaque on it – just as I walked in to see what he was doing….. UGH!! But, he was able to complete the task all by himself without any damage being done.

Then, J went downstairs to fix a piece of his Hot Wheels track. He decided that he would use Elmer’s glue (thank God he decided on the Elmer’s glue instead of the super glue!!) to repair a piece of his track that was coming off. Luckily, I intervened before he had opened the glue.

Not 30 minutes later, I hear K fussing at J to stop cutting K’s hair. I didn’t give this too much thought either – BIG MISTAKE – as they have several pairs of toy scissors that don’t cut anything and they have being enjoy playing barber with them quite a bit lately. But, K kept on fussing and ran into the kitchen crying. I started fussing at J as I was trying to calm K down. The conversation went something like this:

Me: “J, were you cutting K’s hair?”
J: “Yes, but I was using my scissors.”
Me: “You better have been using play scissors and not real scissors!”
J: “I wasn’t using ‘real’ scissors. I was using MY scissors. And, I cut my hair, too.” (I had over-heard the discussion between the two of them that J had already cut his own hair so it was K’s turn.)
Then, I notice a small tuff of hair on the kitchen floor!!
Me: “You did too use real scissors!! You know better than that!!”
J: “No, I didn’t use ‘real’ scissors. I used MY scissors.”
The “my scissors” that Julian had been referring to blunt-end child-sized Fiskers! I keep them in an upper-drawer of our hutch. Julian had pulled a chair over to reach them.
Me: “Why did you do that?”
J: “I needed my hair cut and wanted to save you from having to take me to the place to get my hair cut.” Awww… how thoughtful! Luckily, you couldn’t really tell on either of the boys where J had cut their hair.

About an hour later, I cut J’s hair myself. It turned out pretty good. DH even thought so. 🙂

So, with all of this “helping” – and the scary thing is that he really was trying to help each time!! – I don’t have any idea how I am going to keep up with J, let alone stay one step ahead! LOL!! Ahh, the blessing of children!! I wouldn’t miss it for the world!! And, it sure does make me smile thinking about it – heck, you just have to giggle about it – he was just trying to help!


My Bed January 25, 2009

Filed under: musing — Relishing Life @ 4:55 am

Where is your favorite place at your house to be? Mine is my bed! No, not for sleeping or other fun activities 😉 although I do enjoy those endeavors very much! My bed is a place that I love to spend time in alone or with DH or our DSs. I enjoy laying around on our bed just talking about our day or even more important topics such as our inner most thoughts and dreams or the problems we are facing. It is interesting that the bed brings an intimacy in our conversations that is unmatched (I am referring to ANY time of the day while on top of a made bed and fully clothed). We feel better able to share our thoughts and feelings and they seem to flow better out of the unconscious. Tickle matches with the kids are great on the bed. My bed represents a safe place. It is cozy and warm. It comforts me. It is a place that I can be completely myself. I love laying in bed and reading. There is something about being curled up in the covers with *my* pillow while immersing myself in a good book. Even as I type this, I am sitting on my bed enjoying the comfort that my bed affords me. I think that part of the draw of my bed is the fact that growing up, my bed was the ONLY place that was truly my own. You see, I have always shared a room with my sister who is 19 months younger than me (most of the time that was a 10′ x 10′ room with only enough room for each of us to have a bed and a dresser and a 4′ space between). And, being that we were so close in age we shared most everything – whether we wanted to or not. So, my bed was the only thing that I could always count on as being only mine. It was my sanctuary, and it still is. I am very blessed to have such a warm and cozy place to retreat to!


Just Keep Swimming January 22, 2009

Filed under: family,Homemaking,musing — Relishing Life @ 1:40 am

A funny picture just popped into my mind as I opened this post. Dori from Finding Nemo singing, “Just keep swimming.” How often that is our mantra. Just keep on keeping on. Today we didn’t accomplish everything that I would have liked, but we did get quite a bit done. The chores that aren’t completed will wait until tomorrow as we just keep going about our day until we are able to complete all of the items on our list. We have slowed our pace and are taking more time to enjoy our daily lives. As some tasks pile up keeping me feeling “just keep swimming,” I am also appreciating each and every day more – even if less is being done.


Wishing for Perfection January 15, 2009

Filed under: family,Homemaking,musing — Relishing Life @ 4:26 am

Have you ever found yourself barraged by internal turmoil? It is at this point in my life that I am both liberated and confined. I am liberated in the sense that I know who I am, who I would like to be and what I am capable of. I am confined in the sense as I have a family to take care of (which I very much love doing!) and do not have the freedom to pursue my dreams in the way one can tend to them as a single person. This is not to say that I wish I didn’t have my wonderful family – alas, it is my wonderful family which is truly my biggest dream. I simply wish that I were a more complete person so that I could fulfill the needs and wants of the precious people all around me more wholly and be completely satisfied myself. I always wanted to be little Miss Susie Homemaker (pre-prison, lol) who could take care of the house, her children, her husband, and herself effortlessly (or at least without falling to complete pieces). But, that is not who I am. I still dream of being that person, but at least I know that is not really the person that I am and have reduced the amount of times which I compare myself to that “perfect mom/wife.” I wish that I could have the perfect (tidy and ALWAYS company-ready) house, the perfect way of raising my children (one in which I felt that I was the one in control all of the time), the perfect relationship with my husband, and enough time AND energy to pursue personal interests and hobbies. As the kids get older and I am grasping a better handle of keeping the house under control, I inch towards this elusive dream of perfection. But, as for today, I settle for the perfection of two precious sons sleeping peacefully after a fun-filled day and the time to sit and blog for self purposes. That is as close to perfection as this day will come and I am content with that!


Friendship January 14, 2009

Filed under: quote — Relishing Life @ 5:10 am

“The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, nor the kindly smile nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when he discovers that someone else believes in him and is willing to trust him.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson


Does Guitar Hero Count as Music Education? January 13, 2009

Filed under: education,family,raising children — Relishing Life @ 3:49 am

eWell, our boys just LOVE playing along when we play Guitar Hero! (I haven’t the heart yet to let them use the actual game instruments; they use their regular preschool instruments and microphones to play and sing along as well as a guitar that doesn’t work anymore.) DH went out of town on business this morning for most, if not all, of this week. So, the boys and I had a singfest with Guitar Hero tonight. They picked the songs and “played” along with the guitar or sang at the TOP of their lungs. It was GREAT!! I wish that we could have stayed up all night playing together, but well, I’m not crazy. 🙂 Well, it got me to thinking as I watch them bopping, dancing and singing along to the music that they are learning alot by playing this game: rhythm, tempo, beats, tones, math (they always say that music is based off math), etc. So, can’t I just play Guitar Hero with them for the music, language (they are learning new words and phrases and applying them in and out of context), and math portions of our homeschooling???? Hmmm…. Maybe…. 😉


Wonderful Winter Day! January 12, 2009

Filed under: family,nature,raising children — Relishing Life @ 5:10 am

Today was one of those wonderful winter days! DH took our boys, the two neighbor boys and myself sledding. It was a blast! (Okay, I only went down once and it was on a SMALL hill and even then I said some things on the way down that Mom would have washed my mouth out with soap for – oops!) All of the boys had a blast sledding down the big hill with the exception of the little one (2-1/2 years old). The little one prefers to stay with me at the top and provide moral support such as “Awesome, Daddy!” “You okay?” and “Good job!” It is too cute! But, our older son (4-1/2 years old) LOVES going down the long STEEP slopes!! He doesn’t even mind when he gets a little snow in his face if he wipes out. It is such a treat to watch him and see how much fun he is having! Daddy even enjoyed the slopes. He had made sure to get a sled that would hold his adult body. He had just as much fun as the younger boys.

I even remembered to take my camera to capture it all – until it was time to walk out the door! UGH! I was the last one ready as I got everyone else ready so in the rush, I forgot to grab the camera. But, we have some terrific memories! Then, we all came back to the house for hot cocoa and some Guitar Hero. What could be better than that? We had a great day!